Love What You Have: Day Nine

Temptation is the name of today’s email. In this, Michelle reminds us about all the things we buy without thinking, becuase either we “need” it or want it. I’m guilty of this… for sometimes shopping and book hunting are my only real outlets to getting away from home. Today’s assignment:

Take 10-15 minutes to assess what you’ve already got in the category you tend to shop for most often (such as clothes, shoes or, like me, home decor items). Decide where you have enough, and what actual holes there are in your collection. Eliminate temptation by unsubscribing from the store newsletter, not visiting the website or not cracking open the sales flier unless you’re looking for something specific.

Okay, so my list of temptation items that I buy:

  • Snacks: I have more than enough snacky items to keep me through the day. This includes chocolate, dried fruits, and granola. I want to be able to eat up the boxes of cereal that I have before I get any other snack item. The only holes that I see are breads, as we tend to go through a lot of that.
  • Books: Thankfully, I’m more into getting freebies than paying. As I’ve listed elsewhere, I’m trying hard not to spend more than $20 a month on 1-2 books of my own monies. I want to read the ones I do have in my library. Only holes are the books that I want that did not get before the ebook got pulled from where I purchase them.

Eliminating temptations:

  • Email deletion. Thankfully, I use to round up and handle subscriptions. I’ve also been unsubscribing from things that I don’t want.
  • Newspapers. I don’t subscribe to a newspaper, therefore I don’t get the sales fliers. Same with junk mail, I go to the sites that help me unsubscribe from marketing lists.

What temptations do you have when you get to the store? Is there anything you find that you buy more of and then don’t use it all?

Love What You Have: Day Eight

Michelle wrote about how we can make things shine. That is to find something that isn’t looking it’s best and clean it up. Sometimes I forget that a good scrub can take the dusty and sticky kitchen items looking new and amazing. Our homework for today is to:

Pick one item in your house that’s looking rather drab, and spend ten minutes perking it up with a good old-fashioned scrub down. Bonus points for listening to (or SINGING) A Spoonful of Sugar while you do it.

Again, this is a really hard one for me to come up with. With the things I have and display, I tend to dust and clean them regularly. When our kitchen remodel finished, I did scrub down the iced tea maker that kender has. Today I did give some extra attention in the kitchen… so I hope this counts.

In any case, I will be mindful of this assignment and if I see something that doesn’t reflect or honor this, I’ll be cleaning it up.

Love What You Have: Day Seven

Today’s assignment revolves around things that need fixing. This is important because usually these are items we love and can repair, or want to keep around because they still have uses. Michelle charged us with making a list of things that are around the house that needs repairs (along with items that need to be purchased, if any), and then set aside some calendar time to fix those things.

Well, thanks to Wunderlist, Kender and I have a list of things that need doing around the house, so I will stick to the items I own that need fixing.

  • Light up bustle. This is a great dress item that I own but cannot wear and show off due to corrosion around the terminals. I’ve had the bustle hung up and airing out for awhile now. But, what I really need to do is to take it to Home Depot and talk to someone who knows what I need to clean them off so I can insert new batteries.

Hmm, I have no idea what else needs fixing. Maybe when I get home later tonight I’ll start a new Wunderlist list of more items.

Love What You Have: Day Six

Today’s lesson is about decluttering… something I know a lot about. This week we were asked to choose from one of three decluttering assignments. I chose the following:

If your space is pretty close to working, you can employ a lighter version of decluttering with this old decorating trick. Walk through a room with a tray (or a box) and collect anything that detracts from the room’s function, aesthetic or general atmosphere. When you’re finished, you’ll have a beautiful decluttered room, and a small pile of things to relocate or ditch.

I’ve never tried the Traying methodology, so I think I’ll be doing my assignment on Wednesday when I can grab a box and place stuff in it. Currently, I do have a small smattering of clothing, electronics, and miscellany to add to a box. They’re all sitting on the guest bed which serves as my Tray, but I think I’d love to push myself to put it all into a box before it gets out of hand.

Hey locals, would anyone be in looking through the t-shirts before I donate?

Love What You Have: Day Five

Today’s Assignment focuses on one of my life-long goals… to recall the things that are perfect, rather than dwell on the stuff that is wrong. As a writer, editor, and creative person it’s easy for me to see the bad in everything I do and in the works of others. Whether it’s in my life or my work or my home, I dwell on the imperfection. My mind closes around it and it seems like that the imperfection is the only thing I can see. It’s hard to break that mindset.

Usually it gets broken for me by friends and kender. They remind me what I have done right and that helps to lessen my mind’s grip on the thing that’s causing it to fret. However, this assignment, may give me a new tool to overcome this by myself. Guess we’ll see:

Make a list of 10 instances of absolute perfection in your life. Start by asking yourself some basic questions. You might not be able to answer the affirmative for all of them, but really dig in to acknowledge the good that you’ve got:

Do you like where you live? Your job? If you no longer in a relationship that wasn’t working for you? Are you healthy? Do you feel safe? Even when purse strings are tight, do you still find a way to pay your bills? What problems have you solved within the last week, month, or year that you’re no longer dealing with?

Want some extra credit? List the people who love you, and all the ways your life is better for having them around.

It’s so easy to focus on what’s not working, but give yourself (and your life, and your friends + family) due credit for what is working.

Jaymi’s List of 10 Absolute Perfect Things

1. I love where I live. PDX is the best city for me. It’s got everything I want and love the energy. Likewise, our new house is perfect. It’s just the right size and shape to have a life with kender.

2. I have a wonderful loving husband. Kender is my touchstone. He makes me smile, laugh, and when I am not, he’s there to help me feel better. He’s my snuggle buddy and the best person in the world for me. We may not eat the same foods or see eye to eye on everything, but I can’t think of a more suited partner for me.

3. Joth, my kitty. Joth has been with me for 16 (or 17?) years. She’s seen me at my best and at my worst and she’s always there when I get home for snuggles, pets, and purring. She’s one amazing kitty.

4. My spiritual path. It’s constantly surprising and supporting me… even when I don’t think I have the faith to believe. I know something out there is watching and guiding me and I am very lucky to have that level of support.

5. The things that push me to learn and grow. Lately I’ve been learning a new eBook creation app, Jutoh, and that’s been showing me the power of doing your own eBook formatting. It’s a fun app and I look forward to the day when I can format my own books in it.

6. A great health team. I’m fortunate to have kender’s health insurance that affords me the luxury to be on shots for my allergies, the best drugs for asthma, and a great team of doctors and attendants to watch over my health.

7. I am loved.

8. Music makes me happy. I love listening to it with headphones on while I write or do other stuff.

9. I have the ability and flexibility to pursue a non-traditional career in writing and tarot.

10. I am still alive.

Love What You Have: Day Four

Today’s assignment:

I bet you can find some amazing amenities you may have forgotten about—and the more you stretch yourself to think of them, the more likely you’ll be to find some gems that you’ll want to make use of. Does your apartment complex or neighborhood have a pool? Are there any free museums in your area? Check out your local Chamber of Commerce or Visitors Bureau website to see if they have a list of free resources and things to do in your city. Once you have your list, it’s time to love what you’ve got. Star the items you forgot about, and make a note to take advantage of them. Keep the list around for the next time you’re looking for something to do and can’t think of any good options.

So here’s my list (hopefully expanding over time):

  • Access to a public library (that also has a great eBook lending programs)
  • Amazing parks and scenery
  • Hot tub
  • Gas heater
  • Clean air in the house (thanks to our new furnace)
  • Wireless at the house and free wifi at other places
  • Portland Art Museum
  • A great friendship circle
  • A great writing community that helps me get stuff written
  • Mountains within an hour of driving
  • Ocean within an hour of driving
  • Computer
  • Tarot Decks

Um, um… and… can you local PacNWers think of anything else I’ve forgotten?

Love What You Have: Day Three

Today’s email focused more around the idea of Spending it Forward. The assignment was to:

Find something to celebrate (a sunny day; a small victory at work; a personal milestone or a fresh attitude about a problem) and deck the table like it’s Christmas (even if you’re just eating fish sticks). Take out your best dishes, cover the table in candles and pretty serving ware, and celebrate like you mean it.

Today was an awesome day. I knocked everything off my to-do list; which included formatting a book for print, ePub, and Kindle. It was unusually warm and sunny out. And then, the best piece of information came to my email inbox: I got accepted by the Northwest Tarot Symposium to teach a class at the inaugural event next March. Woot! So my celebration was on. I’ll be teaching Creative Writing and Tarot, one of my favorite subjects to talk to others about.

However, I really don’t own any “best dishes” or other kitchen items that I don’t already use on a daily basis. So instead, I celebrated at a friend’s house where we used her new antique glassware. I also donated my stack of unused paper plates to her household of 3 kids.